How to Spot an Egomaniac in a Relationship
Do you suspect that the person you’re seeing is an egomaniac? Some signs that they’re infatuated with simply themselves instead of you include the following.
At times, having a large ego can be advantageous to your self-esteem and self-confidence. Moving forward in life is made easier when you have a strong sense of self-worth. The question is, what happens when someone’s ego spirals out of control and they begin to believe they are better than everyone else?
Arrogance and vanity result from this increased desire for flattery and adoration.
Having a little arrogance is fine in moderation, but showing a lack of self-awareness is not. Insecurity is the mother of egomania. It’s a sign of a profound desire to be accepted by receiving a lot of praise and attention. Many egomaniacs suffer from a sense of inadequacy. They derive a sense of self-worth from others. While some egos are built on the foundation of actual success, others might be fueled by nothing more than the adulation of their peers.
A narcissist, on the other hand, has egotistical tendencies.
Narcissists express no regret or shame for their conduct, which is one of the fundamental contrasts between them and the rest of us. Whereas egomaniacs can empathize, they are reverting back to their selfish and uncaring ways as soon as they have the spotlight back on themselves.
Unlike narcissists, egomaniacs don’t always succumb to their whims and are able to hold down a job or a relationship for a longer period of time. While this is the case, their egocentric tendencies begin to emerge as they become more comfortable. It won’t be long before you’re bending over backwards to meet their expectations of you.
It’s not uncommon for egomaniacs to be fully integrated into their professional and interpersonal networks. Detecting them can be a challenge, but the more you learn, the better off you’ll be.
Signs that your partner is a self-obsessed egotist.
They’re blind to their own shortcomings.
They despise being told they are flawed in any way. You’ll find them doing everything they can to avoid bringing up any aspect of themselves that you find objectionable. They believe that everyone should think well of themselves and their conduct.
There’s no way to get in touch.
It can feel like you’re talking to a brick wall at times. When you express your concerns, they make you feel like a fool, and they don’t tell you what’s on their mind. In the meantime, they can relax and let you work on bridging the gap in your relationship.
When you’re around them, they think they’re smarter than you are.
These people nevertheless believe they have more power to speak on your behalf, even when the subject matter is primarily within your area of competence. They regard themselves as experts in every field and will rarely listen to your advice.
They can’t take a hit from the truth.
In spite of their best efforts, they can’t manage to reclaim their losses. Calling them out is all it takes to get under their skin. At the first sight of a challenge, they disintegrate. They’re the worst at dealing with criticism.
Master manipulators.
Sulking or making an issue of it is all they have to do to obtain what they want. They know just what to say and do in order to get what they want from you. When you get angry, people think you’re overreacting until you give them the response they want.
The relationship revolves around you, and you’re the engine that powers it.
When it comes to your relationship, they put in minimum effort and routinely expect you to do the majority of the work.
They’ve got a knack for making things work in their favor.
There is an inexplicable sense that they make you feel like the problem in every setting. As soon as you said something to defend yourself, you started arguing with them. “I only got upset and shouted because you did something to make me feel this way,” is a common refrain.
They don’t know how to say sorry.
Although you may receive an apology, it’s never sincere. They may feel horrible about what they did, but you won’t know it by their actions or demeanor. As a result, they’ll find a way to either make you apologize or sarcastically respond to you.
It all centers on their wants and desires.
There isn’t much they don’t do to further their own interests. They’ll do whatever it takes to get what they want, even if it means going against what you want.
They can’t get enough of the way they look.
They slow down and take a closer look at themselves every time they pass a reflected surface. You’ll often see them examining their own reflections in windows or asking others if they think they look good in public restrooms. No one looks at them the same way they do.
Actually, they’re quite mean.
They spend a lot of time making fun of you or putting you down with backhanded compliments. Then, when confronted about it, the person tells you that they’re joking or that you shouldn’t take it so seriously. There is no joking around here, only malicious mocking. Do not be deceived into believing it’s an innocent jest.
Face the egomaniac head-on or get out of their life if you find yourself in one. Having a relationship with them isn’t worth it since they eventually drain all your good energy and self-confidence away.